Individual Therapy

Happiness has nothing to do with perfection.It has everything to do with wholeness. Wholeness comes from self-acceptance and compassion. When we are whole, we have access to all of our feelings and can use them rather than be controlled by them.We can make mistakes without getting down on ourselves. We are resilient in the face of difficult changes and are able to go for what we want.  

When we  come into the world we have everything we need to be whole. If we grow up in an environment where our needs for affection, attention, appreciation , acceptance and allowance to be our true selves are met, we grow into mature and healthy adults. But most of us don’t. Most of us grow up in environments where one or more of these needs are not met. As children we develop patterns to manage feelings and needs that are too big for us. These early experiences become stored in our unconscious and will create a kind of blueprint for how we will later relate to our inner and outer worlds.

As we move through transitions, these early wounds become re-opened and our tendency is to fall back on early patterns of coping. This is a time that we can revisit old feelings and memories, release them and  learn to break out of patterns that limit our ability to enjoy life.  The goal of psychotherapy is to become conscious of these wounds, finding expression for all the associated feelings and to heal.

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate” ~Carl Jung